Y’all! Can you believe that we are in a New Year? I mean where did 2016 go?
Looking back, I know that 2016 was a rough year in so many ways. I feel like we reached a new level of hatred in our country and bringing up a child in these times is really scary. I am thankful that she was too young to even realize what was going on and I pray that in 2017 we all show a little more love to one another.
My motto for 2016 was “Throw Kindness Around Like Confetti,” and I really tried to do this in so many areas of my life. I strengthened bonds of friendship made through social media, put forth more of an effort with my friends who are in my daily life, smiled at strangers, helped out the needy and just tried to be a more pleasant person. But I have to admit that I am nowhere near perfect. I feel like I really failed in areas of my personal life. Maybe I spread my emotions to thin? Or maybe I had too much on my plate? Whatever it was, I really feel like I failed my husband and child.
As a 30-year old Wife, Mom and Teacher most days I felt like I was the conductor on the Hot-Mess Express. Some days I was so emotionally and physically drained when I got home that I would go to bed as soon as I had nursed the baby to sleep. Other days I couldn’t manage more than watching Netflix on the catch while I tossed Puffs down to the baby and watched her scavenge around for them. I got really good at giving off an appearance of looking like I had everything together.
Want to know a secret? In most of my outfits pictures on Instagram for 2016 I had dirty hair and a no-makeup face. But no one ever knew because I almost always crop out my face! By the end of 2016 I was done…
I realized a few things that I need to differently in 2017. First and foremost, we all need a little more Jesus, myself included. The hatred in this world could all be fixed if we turned our focus to the King instead of to our differences. In His eyes, we are all His children, no matter our race, gender or ethnicity. Until we put Him first in our lives, nothing else will really fall into place. I admit that I have already failed in this area in the New Year, but it is something that I am working on daily.
Next my motto for 2017 is to simply “Be Happy.” It might now sound like much, but those two little words can make such a huge difference in my life. When is say “be happy,” I mean to be happy with the life I have. My life has been a constant battle of needing to be right, picking fights, shopping to find happiness and eating away my feelings. How is that helping anyone? I told you it looked like I had everything together. On the inside though, I was lost, constantly searching for something newer or better. It is very easy for me to get caught up with my number of followers or like, so much so that my phone is almost permanently attached to my hand. How is this healthy for my husband and daughter? Not to mention, how is the healthy for my bank account? I see something I want and have to have it… until I see something else I want… and then again until I see something else I want. It is a never ending spending cycle of trying to buy happiness. By simply being happy,specifically with my own life and what I already have, I am trying to focus more on why I am doing something instead of what I can get out of something. If you take away the stress of increasing followers and getting more likes you are left with a little world of social media that is full of encouraging women who are constantly building up one another! Isn’t that so much better than a need follower or like?!
Now that the stress of social media is gone, that leaves time for my husband and daughter. A marriage is something that requires constant work and attention. In most cases, if you are fighting, you are probably both to blame. If you are nagging it is probably because you are not happy with your recent behavior or choices and are trying to place blame elsewhere. And if you notice that you are lacking in the intimacy department, it may be because you are not putting forth an effort. How do I know all of this? Because I am guilty of every single one. Did you know this? I told you I am good at putting on a front. Remember, social media allows us to portray and image that may not be true, and I am quite good at knowing just what to say and all my best angles. Now if we look at all these things through my motto of “Be Happy” you get a wife who focuses more on the fact that her husband is home safely from work and less on him throwing dirty clothes by the door. You get a wife who leaves her phone in the car on date night because remember, followers, comments and likes really don’t matter. And you get a wife who puts forth more of an effort to make her husband happy!
And finally for 2017, I want to be happy for my daughter. I have been blessed with the most perfect gift in my sweet Vivilyn. God chose me to be her Mommy. She makes me happy in ways that I never thought possible. Just hearing her laughter or seeing her smile fills my heart with so much love and joy that I could explode at times. No matter what is happening in the world, I want her to have a happy life. I want her to know how to treat others and I want her to have a heart for Jesus. If I teach her now to simply be happy in her own life I think that I will raise an outstanding citizen. One that shows compassion to others, one that throws kindness around like confetti and someone that anyone would be honored to have in their life.
So that is my goal for 2017. To simply be happy. Won’t you join me?
Oh! And want to know my outfit deets? This amazing leggings are LuLaRoe. They are beyond comfortable and literally feel like you are wearing pajamas! If you have read any of my earlier posts you know that I am obsessed. My LuLa lady is Nancy Patillo and you need to check out her page. She is the absolute sweetest. Everything else is older but I will link similar styles below:
Photography Courtesy of Magnolia Blossom Photography
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