Catching More Flies with Honey than Vinegar

In today’s society it is very easy to get caught up in being the best, having the best, and doing whatever it takes to make that happen. Sometimes that means that you stoop so low as to becoming a “mean girl.” It’s not always the case, and in the blogging industry, I have, luckily, come into contact with more people willing to help that those who are quick to put down. It makes me sad, though, when I do come into contact with a “mean girl” because women should be supporting one another.

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One of the things that I love most about the blogging community is the connections that you can make and the inspiration that you can gain. For the most part, almost everyone that I have connected with is super nice, very down to Earth, and extremely helpful. Even the biggest bloggers have been more that willing to respond to my comments, answer my questions, and just offer a kind word. One of the biggest examples of this kindness is Brooke of KBStyled. Even though she is one of the biggest people that I follow on Instagram, she always has answered my questions, responded to my Instastory comments, and shown some love. While I have never had the pleasure of meeting her, businesses have told me that she is one of the sweetest people to work with and that she is very grounded.

In this industry, I think that is so important. As women, we are constantly pitted against one another. Society urges us to be one way, people start rumors, and magazines portray only one certain image. It is hard. What I don’t understand is why some women make the society we live and work within even harder. I am not going to lie. I have come across some not so nice women in the blogging industry. The are quick to judge, unwilling to help, and will even make fun of other women. How is this ok? As women, we should be one another’s biggest advocates. We should be building one another up, not tearing one another down!

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One of my favorite recent hashtags on Instagram is #communityovercompetition. I love it because it shows that friendship and kindness are way more important than any sponsorship. When you have a girl gang that has your back, I promise that you will be able to accomplish so much more than you ever would have thought possible. That support, for me, is a constant drive. Here is Savannah I have the privilege of being a part of an amazing group of women called Savannah Influencers. Not only do these women have the biggest hearts and the most giving spirits, they also have strength, fire and determination. They push me to be a better version of myself. They push me to not only reach for my goals, but to take them and make them a reality. Doesn’t that sound so much better than putting someone down?

I have been the mean girl before. It is not fun.

It is lonely, depressing, and you end up feeling even worse than the person that you are putting down. In the mean girl society, no one wins. What I don’t understand is why women  still subject themselves to that behavior. Why they allow hatred to creep in and take over. What was ever accomplished from hatred? What was ever achieved through hurtful words? I am not perfect, but I learned a long time ago that my Mom was right. You catch way more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.

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I urge you today to make some changes and only be supportive. Find a group of girls who support you and push you towards your dreams. Don’t ever settle. Know your worth and surround yourself with people who build you up. We need to be examples for the young women around us. They need healthy examples of friendship, faith and style, and it is those people in the public eye who should be first to be that example. Remember the hashtag #communityovercompetition. We are far better off together as women supporting one another than we are as enemies!

If you want a good example, I urge you to check out Brooke’s blog and Instagram. She truly is a bright spot in the blogging community! And if you need a little encouragement, I encourage you to check out Savannah Influencers on Instagram. They share some of the best quotes that are usually exactly what you need to hear!

And speaking of Brooke, she is the reason that I am styling this dress! She has the pink version and I was smitten the moment I saw her post featuring this beauty. While checking it out at my local H&M, I was beyond thrilled to see this version. It was perfect for my needs and could be styled so many different ways! I definitely played up the accessories in my look, including this amazing hat from Goorin Bros. It is beyond adorable and has the cutest feather detail. We have a store on Broughton Street in Downtown Savannah and I love going and playing with all of their hats! They have so many cute options for men, women and kids, especially for this time of the year!

Check out my links below to shop my look and I encourage you to leave me a comment! I always love hearing from you!

Dress | Boots | Hat c/o | Earrings | Clutch | Belt | Sunglasses

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One thought on “Catching More Flies with Honey than Vinegar

  1. Love this blog! I️ don’t follow bloggers, however when your name was listed for the “Fashion at your Pace” I️ decided to check out your blog. This southern grandma is hooked! I️ have always wanted to have a blog but have always been afraid. I️ would love to get input from you!

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